when kids show u their drawings
when kids show u their drawings
Communication, consistency, spontaneity and the desire to keep it going.
Communication: We aren’t mind readers. Assumptions are made and signs are read incorrectly. From basic communication with simple plans and arrangements to bigger relationship issues — we have to verbally say what is and isn’t going on.
Consistency: What you won’t, someone else can and will. Consistency builds trust and reliability. If you maintain a consistent pattern of positive behavior you begin to build a rep of your character. Not knowing what your partner will think/say/do next because they’re predictable and unreliable is unsettling.
Spontaneity: People get comfortable. Patterns get boring. Routine gets stale and uneventful. You gotta keep shit alive. Get into things that interest you both or take turns doing what your partner likes to do. If he wants to go to a lawnmower convention but you’d rather nae nae on hot coals….do it anyway. You’d want him to get invovled with what you wanna do too. And vice versa. Road trips, 3somes, artsy fartsy shit, film fesitivals, etc……do stuff! Make a bucket list of realistic and when-you’re-filthy-rich things you guys want to do to keep some excitement going. Everything won’t always be amazing or go as planned but that’s ok. You’ll still being experiencing new things with your partner.
Desire to keep it going: That’s pretty self explanatory. Sooooooooooooooooo many people stay in relationships, get married, have kids, and do things they really have no desire to do simply because: they’re supposed to. That is terrible and pretty sad. Constantly doing things you really don’t want to do, just to satisfy others will eventually bring about resentment and there is no coming back from that. Resentment taints many friendships and relationships and things are rarely ever the same again. If you want out - get out of it. If you want to improve, build and try to mend — make the effort. If you notice the effort is not mutual, it may be time to consider other options. Life is too short to be unhappy, waste your time and anyone else’s.
Whenever I hear the "Women are paid $.78 for the man’s $1" I flip it around.
Men make $1.22 for every woman’s $1.
It interests me that even the most common simple measure of gender inequality is firmly based on male-as-normative …
this is an interesting point, although mathematically inaccurate: assuming the women:men, 0.78:1 ratio is correct, men make $1.28 for every woman’s $1
A white man makes $1.34 for every dollar that a black man makes
A white man makes $1.52 for every dollar that a latino man makes
A white man makes $1.24 for every dollar that a white woman makes
A white man makes $1.44 for every dollar that a black woman makes
A white man makes $1.67 for every dollar that a latina woman makes
That’s some bullshit right there.
Let’s take it a step further. For every hour a white man works, a black woman has to work 86 minutes to earn as much money. 57.6 hours a week compared to the white man’s 40.
Take it another step further. Assuming a Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 job, from Thursday 12:45pm through Friday end of business, a white man gets paid for his work, a black woman is, by comparison, working for free.
THE LAST LINE
This. I am tired of seing this numbers without thinking about woc. (via arobynsong)
There is more to life than just materialism.