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Anonymous asked:

How to keep a relationship going long term?

chokesngags answered:

Communication, consistency, spontaneity and the desire to keep it going. 

Communication: We aren’t mind readers. Assumptions are made and signs are read incorrectly. From basic communication with simple plans and arrangements to bigger relationship issues — we have to verbally say what is and isn’t going on. 

Consistency:  What you won’t, someone else can and will. Consistency builds trust and reliability. If you maintain a consistent pattern of positive behavior you begin to build a rep of your character. Not knowing what your partner will think/say/do next because they’re predictable and unreliable is unsettling. 

Spontaneity:  People get comfortable. Patterns get boring. Routine gets stale and uneventful. You gotta keep shit alive. Get into things that interest you both or take turns doing what your partner likes to do. If he wants to go to a lawnmower convention but you’d rather nae nae on hot coals….do it anyway. You’d want him to get invovled with what you wanna do too. And vice versa. Road trips, 3somes, artsy fartsy shit, film fesitivals, etc……do stuff! Make a bucket list of realistic and when-you’re-filthy-rich things you guys want to do to keep some excitement going. Everything won’t always be amazing or go as planned but that’s ok. You’ll still being experiencing new things with your partner. 

Desire to keep it going: That’s pretty self explanatory. Sooooooooooooooooo many people stay in relationships, get married, have kids, and do things they really have no desire to do simply because: they’re supposed to.  That is terrible and pretty sad. Constantly doing things you really don’t want to do, just to satisfy others will eventually bring about resentment and there is no coming back from that. Resentment taints many friendships and relationships and things are rarely ever the same again. If you want out - get out of it. If you want to improve, build and try to mend — make the effort. If you notice the effort is not mutual, it may be time to consider other options. Life is too short to be unhappy, waste your time and anyone else’s. 

everythingyoulovetohate
Whenever I hear the "Women are paid $.78 for the man’s $1" I flip it around.

Men make $1.22 for every woman’s $1.

It interests me that even the most common simple measure of gender inequality is firmly based on male-as-normative …

bisexual activist and queer theory blogger Patrick RichardsFink 

this is an interesting point, although mathematically inaccurate: assuming the women:men, 0.78:1 ratio is correct, men make $1.28 for every woman’s $1

A white man makes $1.34 for every dollar that a black man makes

A white man makes $1.52 for every dollar that a latino man makes

A white man makes $1.24 for every dollar that a white woman makes

A white man makes $1.44 for every dollar that a black woman makes

A white man makes $1.67 for every dollar that a latina woman makes

That’s some bullshit right there.

Let’s take it a step further. For every hour a white man works, a black woman has to work 86 minutes to earn as much money. 57.6 hours a week compared to the white man’s 40.

Take it another step further. Assuming a Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 job, from Thursday 12:45pm through Friday end of business, a white man gets paid for his work, a black woman is, by comparison, working for free.

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THE LAST LINE

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This. I am tired of seing this numbers without thinking about woc. (via arobynsong)

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laurennohill:

bishopmyles:

tryllvester:

hitlerch4n:

ledi-babushka-soski:

weloveinterracial:

Black Teen With White Parents Mistaken For Burglar, Assaulted By Cops In His Own Home
‘Put your hands on the door, I was like, ‘For what? This is my house.’ Police pointed at photos of white people hanging on the wall and told him that he was lying.
A North Carolina teen was recently assaulted and pepper sprayed by police in his own home, after he was mistaken for a burglar.  18-year-old DeShawn Currie has been living with foster parents Ricky and Stacy Tyler in Wake County, North Carolina for about a year.
The Tylers love DeShawn as their own son and they have taken him into their home, in hopes to provide him the safe and loving environment that he needs to thrive in the most important years of his life.
Unfortunately, some of the Tyler’s neighbors were not familiar with the family dynamics of the home, and decided to call the police to report a burglary when they saw the young man entering his home after school one day.  DeShawn did not climb through a window or struggle to get inside, but simply walked through the unlocked door of the home.  The only thing that actually made his neighbors suspicious, was the color of his skin.
When police arrived on the scene they treated DeShawn like a criminal without asking any questions.
“They was like, ‘Put your hands on the door, I was like, ‘For what? This is my house.’ I was like, ‘Why are y’all in here?” DeShawn said in an interview.
When DeShawn asked the officers why they were in his home, they pointed at photos of white people hanging on the wall and told him that he was lying.
“I’m feeling comfortable, I had moved into my room, and I’m feeling like I’m loved. And then when they come in and they just profile me and say that I’m not who I am. And that I do not stay here because there was white kids on the wall, that really made me mad,” DeShawn later told reporters.
During the entire altercation, police were shouting profanity at the young man, and pointing multiple guns at his face.  When DeShawn stood firm and insisted that he was in fact in his own home, police attacked him with pepper spray.
When Stacy Tyler came home from work she saw her son DeShawn in the driveway being treated by paramedics for the injuries that police had inflicted.
“My 5-year-old last night, she looked at me and said, ‘Mama I don’t understand why they hated our brother, and they had to come in and hurt him,” Stay Tyler told reporters.
“Everything that we’ve worked so hard for in the past years was stripped away yesterday in just a matter of moments,” father Ricky Tyler added.
The police department has defended their actions, saying that that DeShawn did not obey the officer’s orders to the letter, despite the fact that they were intruders in his home and had no right to be there barking orders at him.

Now this is something to bring attention to.

Yes

"Now this is something to bring attention to." As opposed to what?

._.

This some shit.

laurennohill:

bishopmyles:

tryllvester:

hitlerch4n:

ledi-babushka-soski:

weloveinterracial:

Black Teen With White Parents Mistaken For Burglar, Assaulted By Cops In His Own Home

‘Put your hands on the door, I was like, ‘For what? This is my house.’ Police pointed at photos of white people hanging on the wall and told him that he was lying.

A North Carolina teen was recently assaulted and pepper sprayed by police in his own home, after he was mistaken for a burglar.  18-year-old DeShawn Currie has been living with foster parents Ricky and Stacy Tyler in Wake County, North Carolina for about a year.

The Tylers love DeShawn as their own son and they have taken him into their home, in hopes to provide him the safe and loving environment that he needs to thrive in the most important years of his life.

Unfortunately, some of the Tyler’s neighbors were not familiar with the family dynamics of the home, and decided to call the police to report a burglary when they saw the young man entering his home after school one day.  DeShawn did not climb through a window or struggle to get inside, but simply walked through the unlocked door of the home.  The only thing that actually made his neighbors suspicious, was the color of his skin.

When police arrived on the scene they treated DeShawn like a criminal without asking any questions.

“They was like, ‘Put your hands on the door, I was like, ‘For what? This is my house.’ I was like, ‘Why are y’all in here?” DeShawn said in an interview.

When DeShawn asked the officers why they were in his home, they pointed at photos of white people hanging on the wall and told him that he was lying.

“I’m feeling comfortable, I had moved into my room, and I’m feeling like I’m loved. And then when they come in and they just profile me and say that I’m not who I am. And that I do not stay here because there was white kids on the wall, that really made me mad,” DeShawn later told reporters.

During the entire altercation, police were shouting profanity at the young man, and pointing multiple guns at his face.  When DeShawn stood firm and insisted that he was in fact in his own home, police attacked him with pepper spray.

When Stacy Tyler came home from work she saw her son DeShawn in the driveway being treated by paramedics for the injuries that police had inflicted.

“My 5-year-old last night, she looked at me and said, ‘Mama I don’t understand why they hated our brother, and they had to come in and hurt him,” Stay Tyler told reporters.

“Everything that we’ve worked so hard for in the past years was stripped away yesterday in just a matter of moments,” father Ricky Tyler added.

The police department has defended their actions, saying that that DeShawn did not obey the officer’s orders to the letter, despite the fact that they were intruders in his home and had no right to be there barking orders at him.

Now this is something to bring attention to.

Yes

"Now this is something to bring attention to." As opposed to what?

._.

This some shit.

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shinemoonchild:

corruptionoftheworld:

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rockandfloyd:

blessedarethewarriors:

demonhamster:

she is SIXTEEN

she also got shot in the HEAD and LIVED

She is amazing person because she was almost killed and still continues to speak out and believe in herself and that what shes doing is right.

i love Malala so much. 

she should be made into a saint

I second that

She lived to tell her story & to be heard by millions

And she’s won a Noble peace prize!